ribadyan is the Westron word for a person celebrating his or her birthday.
History[edit | edit source]
Birthdays had considerable social importance for the Hobbits, and customs were regulated by fairly strict etiquette, usually reduced to formalities.
The Hobbits generally exchanged gifts as a form of "payment" for services but also of thanksgiving in favors and friendships. According to an ancient custom, a hobbit baby, shortly after birth and its name-announcement, was given a gift by the head of the family, as a token of accepting it into the family (on the rare cases of adoptions, parents gave gifts to their new child). Gifts then became a means of recognizing family membership, and the head of the family ritually gave something, even if only a token, to a birthday celebrant.
On its third birthday, a ribadyan hobbit child gave presents to their parents, that typically was something that was personally found, or produced (made or grown). This may have been extended to other ages and relatives, and began the custom of the ribadyan also giving something to the persons of their environment along with the older and most formalized custom of receiving.
The present given by the ribadyan was typically something owned or produced by themselves; as a rule something not very expensive, (such as circulating mathoms) but its nature depended on time, places, the age and status of the celebrant. One notable exception was Bilbo Baggins who didn't circulate gifts; he kept those given, and instead gave new ones. For his Farewell Party, he had ordered especially good gifts and "magical" dwarven toys, ordered from Erebor and Dale.
The ribadyan who was head of a Shire house would distribute gifts to all residents, servants, neighbors and others; and commonly giving a party, distributing presents to all invited. Among the Shire-hobbits of the later Third Age, the recipients included near kin and neighbors ("twelve-mile cousins"). Withholding an expected gift was taken as a rebuke. The giving was made in person and privately, avoiding embarassments; properly before the birthday, the latest being the nuncheon on the birthday.
Birthdays were very frequent in places such as Hobbiton and Bywater, because of their population: some hobbit would have a birthday each day in the year; as such, every hobbit received at least one present at least every week. They were also responsible for cluttering the hobbit-holes with mathoms and other objects.
Etymology[edit | edit source]
Other versions of the legendarium[edit | edit source]
Many details of the gift-exchanging customs come from a draft of a letter Tolkien wrote. In that letter Tolkien mentions that he considered putting such details into the Prologue but that would make it too long and overloaded according to some critics.
- J.R.R. Tolkien; Humphrey Carpenter, Christopher Tolkien (eds.), The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien, Letter 214, (undated, written late 1958 or early 1959)
- J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings, The Fellowship of the Ring, "A Long-expected Party"
- J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings, "Prologue", "Concerning Hobbits"